Money issues often appear in family conflicts! American Psychologist: 4 relationships between financial science and happiness

Almost everyone knows the truth that "financial management is important", but many people do not really take it as one because of factors such as fear of trouble and underestimating risks. American psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein has been in the field of psychological treatment for more than 30 years and has been in contact with many families who come to consult with him. From this, he discovered an interesting phenomenon: money issues often appear in family conflicts.

There are many couples, one manages all the money in the family, and the other is absent-minded about money management. "It's better to give him a fish than to eat it" is a common saying in the education of money and money awareness. Everyone should learn to be responsible for their own finances. If you talk about the relationship between money and happiness, American writer Natasha Munson This sentence is very convincing: "Money and emotion are the same as that, both need to be managed to be on the right track."

{99} There are many financially important things that affect the quality of the relationship. Their income does not mean that they will be happy. Many middle-income families also live happily. The focus is on "financially and financially", that is, how to make more reasonable decisions about spending, savings, investments and taxes.

We are completely unable to predict "risk". We cannot 100% determine when we will lose our jobs, when there will be financial storms in which year, when infections like the new crown pneumonia will break out, and if you have enough financial knowledge, you can prepare in advance. The "uncontrollable" sense of bad things is often the reason why we fall into depression and anxiety. Such negative emotions will also affect important others around you, and even become a conflicting fire line, destroying each other's relationship. Don't underestimate the harm caused by the financial pressure.

Above all, American psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein has compiled the following four views to describe the relationship between financial knowledge and happiness.

1. The less economic pressure you will feel happier, there is no doubt about this.

2. The more you value your financial management skills, when economic pressure occurs in life (such as family members get sick and children are going abroad), you will feel more capable and control, which should be inconsistent with all kinds of difficulties.

3. Maintain a "grouth mindset" in financial management capabilities, that is, believe that abilities can be improved by acquired learning and will not feel frustrated when facing financial challenges.

4. When you can manage your finances, you will look at yourself with a more positive perspective and improve your self-esteem.

The higher the control over money, the higher the flexibility of life

The sentence "Time is money" is very old-fashioned, but in fact, "money is time." The degree of autonomy and control of our life affects our sense of happiness. Who wants to work for others throughout their lives and use time cannot help themselves? This kind of time flexibility is required, and we must have a healthy financial situation, which needs to be based on money management capabilities.

In Chinese society, we sometimes avoid talking about money, which may be because we think that money is injuring feelings, or we may be because we are afraid that money will smell like a copper smell, which is not in line with noble virtues. But the truth is that money affects our "happiness level in life", so in terms of mental health, the importance of learning to manage money is no less than management sentiment and management pressure.