"One day I was in a bad mood. I especially wanted to eat the dishes cooked by my mother, but I waited for a long time but couldn't wait for my mother. My sister said, my mother went to wash her head... It didn't take long for me to wake...
"One day I was in a bad mood. I especially wanted to eat the dishes cooked by my mother, but I waited for a long time but couldn't wait for my mother. My sister said, my mother went to wash her head... It didn't take long for me to wake up. It turned out that it was just a dream. My mother passed away many years ago."
Once sang "Stop" for a while The song "Watch" is now the broadcast host. She has won two broadcast golden bell awards and talked about the glimpse of life during her visit. Her torch of exploration also shines into her heart, bringing together the past 30 years of life into a book. Because of writing her own story, no matter how bitter the memory is, it will be sweet, and she will accompany her to continue walking.
On the broadcast, He Fang visited many lost teenagers, "In fact, when did we not have a time of confusion in our lives? But we have more luck and can still find ourselves after falling."
There was also a home that we wanted to escape
"I am like these teenagers, with homes that make people want to escape, and I have been trapped in depression; what I see in my eyes is an out-of-control father and a suffering mother..., but with my years of sorting, I have seen different stories. With such changes, I have finally got the words "light and light."
When I was in my youth, it was a sudden change in my family. The violence, affair, quarrel, destruction between my parents, etc., was her daily life. In order to make more money, I also sang in a hotel in the middle of the crisis and late at night.
It seems to be insane, but she finally figured out her own order. When she mentioned that her parents were sick in their later years, she also had a new vision when she looked at life by caring for her mother who was in the late stage of cancer in the brain, as if she was washed away.
"My mother gave me this revelation when she was in Anning's ward--"If a man doesn't love you or respect you, single body will have nothing to do with you."" After He Fang's mother passed away, she could not leave for a whole year.
"I took care of my mother with my sister who was also single. Although my mother was so thin, I really couldn't bear it when she was soft on me in the middle of the night. But after she passed away, I couldn't get rid of the things in the back car, and I had no way to sort it out. I painted every day until one day I felt so exhausted that I wiped out the printed messages and the crutches my mother used...."
Reconciled with the pain of the past, and met my future self
No matter whether we are willing to let go, our parents will eventually leave us. Missing is like an endless river, but perhaps, we can re-recognize our parents, and missing us will be more profound.
"The mother in my impression is very traditional, cowardly, weak. She suffered all her life. She finally told me not to marry for the sake of marriage, which made me very strange! But I seriously recall my mother's life, her grievances, her dedication, her decisions..., the decision that I had to make for everything is actually a "sacrifice". She can be a lion, but just for the sake of her children, she chooses to stay in an unpleasant marriage and become another kind of person."
In order to better understand her mother's life outside the role of "mother", she went to Nantou, her mother's hometown, to ask her aunt over 80 to get to know her mother she had never really understood.
After asking, I realized that my mother, who lives and is studying independently in Taipei, always dressed very beautifully when she goes home to her hometown, and also reads books by Jin Yuan. "Girls must not read books, they must have their own abilities!"
"The mother before marriage is so brave and confident! That is my mother!"
Because of her single body, middle-aged people need to be healthy
He Fang, who is 54 years old, is not afraid of words. "Occasionally, I feel a little lonely, especially when I am sick." But one person is hard work, it is better than two people alone. This is the wisdom motto her mother used her life to leave her.
"Take cherish when you meet a lover. Don't be too embarrassed if you don't fit." Because no matter whether you have a companion or not, every woman should treat you kindly and believe that you are always worthy of being loved and always worthy of happiness.
Because of the single body, He Fang values his physical and mental health very much. "If you can still travel around the country and play in the family, I can only prepare my health in advance."
She not only passed the health manager but also learned various ways of nourishing and fertilizing, focusing on nutritional planning for detoxification and anti-inflammatory, but also advocated that daily diet should be "happy". She believes that long-term nutrition balance will make your brain healthy and happy.
Relieve pressure and share a "breathing method"
She also shares a breathing method that can relieve pressure: "Practice inhalation for 4 seconds and hold the air for 4 seconds, then slowly exhale with 6-8 seconds. Use your dantian to breathe, so that your brain and the diaphragm can be talked to. You can try to put the book on your stomach while lying on the bed and pay attention to the ups and downs of the book. This is the fastest way to relieve pressure and also a way to nourish the prescription."
He Fang likes to hike and breathe in nature. He has a smooth skin and elegant temperament after 50 years of age. Maybe, try to "breathe well" with her so that every day of life can be relaxed!
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